That’s a really important point, isn’t it? There was no male privilege. The controls on boys were just as severe as on girls, who were at least semi-allowed, sometimes, to touch themselves.
Isn’t the instruction for men to be the “head” of their families a form of control as well?—for men have to continually suppress their wish to get along, to be agreeable and make compromises. To be human, merged and melded.
They have to be in control, which is to say, controlled by clergy and passing it on down the line.