That’s a helpful framing, thanks.
I’m not sure that “romanticism” is a mode devoid of fantasy. A really Christian mode of eroticism would be one that acknowledges the complete reality of the other, and invests them with divine significance?- with love.
To realize this person is a divine creation and has a complex of feelings, adaptations, reflexes, that one is attempting to bring into—a heightened state of rest. I think that would be Christian sex.