Thank you. I’ve gotten a few comments like this from Christian men, and I take them to indicate the new strategy by Christian men is: assert yourself to be ‘loving’ and (qualified) non-judgmental, as a way of not looking boorish socially, and as a mask over an inner conviction you are actually on God’s side against sexual problems.
As you cite the “differences between masculinity and femininity” you have, in fact, left the terms of Christian spirituality. Be the Bride of Christ!—a female identity. I write about this a few times, like here.