Hey thx, I’m hoping my article on marriage, porneia and porn can help. I understand these references are presented to Christian people as ways of controlling us.

Jesus suggests you be a ‘eunuch for the kingdom’- that would mean, in the language of the time, being unattached to family. But eunuchs were sexual- they were famous for it.

The ideal state in the Jesus teachings is a free, sexual, helpful, healing person. To him, humans, like flowers and birds, are free beings- cf. Matthew 6:25–34.

But we can practice love- that’s what lifts us up into divine standing.

About husband and wives, we’re not taught to read the “prophesy language” of the Bible. The Samaritan Woman episode of John 4 is a helpful guide: when Jesus speaks of ‘husbands’ and ‘wives’ he could not be talking about real people. As she seems to immediately understand, he is talking about gods & human communities.