Hey there, glad to have your input. I'm afraid that mostly Christians will not wish to broach the "porneia" problem, since they need to view "religion" as sexual control & would have a major freak out if it was not. But a new idea is emerging- maybe it's about learning to love people. You start out not knowing how, and learn.
You might like Rob Bell's books. His 2012 "Sex God" book seems like it'd speak to your current trajectory. He has a new one coming out tomorrow, "Everything is Spiritual"- that sounds pretty good too.